A woman’s worth – to be rapable

I’ve been thinking about the value of women for a while now, and more recently my own value as well. Nearly forty and female, single mother for half these years, struggling through poverty, struggling through domestic violence, and violent degrading rapes, struggling through female-related health problems. Continuing to create anyway, even the little things, like each new day. Apparently still fuckable, still desirable, still gropable, for now, or until my struggles are known, or until my struggle for all women is known (that does require accountability=instantly unattractive).

woman;y attributesNearly forty as a woman in this ball park equates to little or no worth in our society, and so do many other factors: not-being-within-the-beauty-standard, colour of skin, disability, rejection of femininity, rejection of male sexuality, having been prostituted for and by men, and god forbid we keep aging.

So little is our value already, as second class citizens in a world governed by male laws, institutions, business and media, that the crimes against ‘us’ women above, and of differing ages, just don’t matter that much, they are even seen as a nuisance.

Given male violence against women is widely under reported, and we are further shamed when we do report, then wrung through the social and justice system, while most rapists never spend a day in jail, let alone have their day in court, why must women now concern ourselves with the rare cases of false reporting while simultaneously giving anonymity to all rapists?

This is a travesty, but not surprising, in a world with existing laws written by men to protect men, laws still being proposed by men to protect men is indeed fathomable.

But what of it when our justice system has the hard evidence of male violence against women, and who did it? Surely even in a male governed world where most women have little worth, when the evidence is there, in this technological age, it is there, right? The laws will protect the known victim from the known abuser and/or give her justice, Right?

Not in a world where only certain women matter.

“Someone who murders a woman involved in prostitution is much less likely to be convicted than of another murder. The murder conviction rate of 75% drops to 26% when it comes to the murder of women involved in prostitution.” Via NorMAs

Adrian Bayley was out on parole, after serving the minimum sentence of eight years for the brutal rapes of several prostituted women, when he raped and murdered Jill Meagher.

“After Bayley confessed to raping and murdering Jill Meagher, he told police that he should never have been released from jail, that he shouldn’t have been given any more chances.” Clementine Ford

Around the same time as Jill’s murder, another woman was raped and murdered in the same city. A woman, who our society again reiterated had little worth, because she was a prostituted women, who lived in poverty, in her car. Her murder would have largely been ignored anyway, we know this, but to have it contrast against the outpouring of grief for Jill, how much one woman’s life was valued, and how little the other woman’s life was worth, should be our daily wake up call to actively work towards ending an industry in our country, that tells our society, that we have a legally rapable class of women. Which yes, spills out, and affects all women, further lowering all our status to just sex, bodies, property, disposable, things.

“Had those women not been sex workers, perhaps Bayley – with his extensive priors – would have been given a heftier sentence…

The gut-wrenching irony is that Bayley was able to rape and murder the kind of woman our community values most because justice wasn’t pursued for the crimes he committed against the women that same community values least.” Clementine Ford

We all observed how quickly ‘king hit’ became ‘cowards punch’ and new legislation was enacted to halter the ‘alcohol fueled‘ violence against young men by men. For women being raped, beaten, prostituted and murdered by men however, we have seen no such changes in the law to protect us. Just perpetual policing of female victims and females in general.

Suffragettes, England, 1908, asking men for deeds not words

Suffragettes, England, 1908, asking men for deeds not words

We get talk occasionally, and token gestures, while no one in authority or power actually addresses the rank masculinity of our society.

Men like Bayley and Sean Christian Price, murderer of Masa vukotic, do not just ‘happen’. Our masculinised culture produces them and our masculinised laws keep them free. Are we really expected to believe that men, as the ruling class, can’t do better than this?

Even some women in Authority conform to working within this male value system, i guess they’ve little choice, as a Sydney Judge reminded us yesterday: “Lazarus had come from a privileged upbringing and had an inflated sense of entitlement and power when he was at the club. But she found he had good prospects of rehabilitation, was unlikely to reoffend and was suffering from an adjustment disorder owing to a break-up in the weeks before the offence”. Blaming his rape of one woman on his feelings after another woman dared to break up with him?

Last week an Ontario court found a man innocent after he ‘let’ a prostituted woman bleed to death in his bathroom from an 11 cm wound in her vagina. The man who paid to abuse this woman’s body claimed the injury was inadvertently caused during a sex act. Crown prosecutors argued the man purposely stabbed Cindy Gladue with a sharp instrument. If he did cause the injury during sex, the prosecution argued, it was forceful enough to go beyond her consent.

These men of our society are so entitled that after they rape women, as with ‘Lazarus with good prospects’ from above, they brag about it. The rape and abuse of women in our society is boast worthy. Think about that next time some man makes a rape joke. Have a look at how ‘everyday’ and ‘entitled’ he is.

These men who like to brag, also have forums set up online where they can ‘rate’ the women they have just paid to abuse via prostitution. This is how these men view women, and how entitled these men think they are to rape, degrade and hurt women:

“Awkward almost not knowing if she was being held there against her will”, “Been face-fucking her for years… a good little slut and she takes direction very well… went right to it to remind her of the throat punishment I have been giving her in the past”, “I cum a big load into her mouth… she told me not to cum in her mouth though, as i paid for half an hour I didn’t care… she is a bitch anyway, i just want to get my money’s worth”, “she’s gotta be bi-polar… when we first start she started crying, fake crying, telling me i’m too big… she took control… it was hurting her but she did it anyway, to make me stop in the middle curl up in a ball and start crying again”. Parts of the 1st four reviews left by men who pay to rape women, recorded at Invisible Men: What do you think of HIS choices?

not an object

When our country has a flourishing industry that prostitutes vulnerable women, by and for men, and advertises it on billboards and in media! Where it is not only culturally and legally accepted, but endorsed for men to treat women as sex objects via this industry, even by mainstream media, are we still really wondering how all this ‘mysterious’ male violence against women is happening?

Are we still really asking whether or not the legal mass sexual exploitation of women and girls, in it’s many permeation’s, is affecting individual men’s feelings of sexual entitlement towards women? Really?

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Related articles:

Men Defining Rape: A History

Who is Sean Christian Price, man accused of Masa Vukotic murder (last piece, previous lax convictions for male perpetrators of violence against women)

Prostitution Industry – directly relating to Australia where possible.

Lessons from Brazil: Getting naked doesn’t help women