The Best Rape Prevention: Tell Men to Stop Raping – Louise Pennington
We can’t be silent any longer, women are being violently and sexually assaulted in Australia every single day! We can’t know the full extent of the phenomenon because most incidents go unreported. Here is just a snapshot.
Australian women are being raped, violently assaulted and tortured at the hands of Australian men. And sure, insert the ‘some’ if it makes you feel a little better. The ongoing violence in our communities comes predominantly from men and it is they who need to change. No more victim blaming.
Earlier this week the Sussex Police in the UK came under fire, and rightly so, for this ‘rape prevention’ poster that puts the onus on women to look out for each other in order to stay safe from men. “Which one of your mates is most vulnerable on a night out? The one you leave behind.”
Well meaning advice perhaps, but as we have seen time and time again, violent men will attack women in their homes, in parks, at their place of work. Women are not guaranteed to be safe anywhere so long as this violence continues. In order to realise change we must start paying attention and calling men out on their sexist, derogatory remarks and violent behaviour every time we witness it.
You can sign the petition to have the Sussex police campaign withdrawn HERE
“If we consider that rape in marriage was legal up until recent decades in most OECD countries, or that rape is a necessary product of the global sex trade, or that rape is a systemic tool in war, or that rape convictions are near enough to nil in most countries, then it should be clear that ending rape would require a massive shift in global relations.
Ending rape, then, requires a radical revisioning of the systems that govern society and an acknowledgement of women as co-creators. The idea that women may no longer be passive recipients of male-centric political, legal and economic systems is likely to unsettle those men who pin their egocentric notions of self-worth on traditional power relations over women.” Laura McNally
I’ll never forget my fury when I heard back in October last year that a Senior Advisor of the Victorian Liberal Party had allegedly been running a porn ring. Apparently Don Coulson’s office was being used as something of a drop off, pick up zone.During an interview with John Faine Coulson admitted to having pornography in his office, describing the material as being ‘hard core’. According to a number of reports it was alleged that some content included acts of bestiality.
At the time Planning Minister, Matthew Guy, dismissed the claims as speculation, assuring the public that this was not an issue as there was nothing illegal about watching or sharing pornography.
Victoria’s Shadow Attorney-General, Martin Pakula, announced that the Labor party had asked police to investigate the matter to determine whether there were images or videos of bestiality, saying “I think most Victorians would be horrified by the notion that animal pornography is being circulated in the Premier’s office.”
In January this year the Federal Police concluded their investigation into the matter advising that no illegal material had been found and the case had been finalised. No illegal material, so no animals then.
I don’t recall our Minister for Women stepping up and saying anything.
Yet on November 25th 2013, almost a year before this scandal came to light our Prime Minister Tony Abbott, our Minister for Women, and a White Ribbon Ambassador, was reported as saying, “We cannot rest until we entirely eliminate violence against women. In any form – physical, sexual or psychological, violence is never, ever acceptable.” He went on to say, ‘It is particularly unacceptable when it is employed against people who are inherently vulnerable.” What is it I wonder, that makes our PM think that women are ‘inherently vulnerable’? Continue reading
Repost from Rosie Redstockings · @rredstockings
“I’m 23. Mine is the first generation to be exposed to online porn from a young age. We learnt what sex is from watching strangers on the internet, we don’t know anything else.
Here are some of the things that I have experienced…
- having my head shoved into his crotch, and held down while I sucked him off
- being told that my gag reflex was too strong, couldn’t I work on it?
- bullied into submitting to facials. I didn’t want to. He said (joking?) that he’d ejaculate on my face while I was asleep. He wan’t joking – I woke up with him wanking over me.
- bullied into trying anal. It hurt so much I begged him to stop. He stopped, then complained that I was being too sensitive and it can’t be *that* bad, he continued to ask for it
- having my hair pulled
- constant requests for threesomes
- constant requests to let him film it
And on every single occasion, I felt guilty for not being a ‘cool girl’. I was letting him down. I was a prude.
THIS IS NOW NORMAL. Every single straight girl I know has had similar experiences. Every. Single. One. Some have experienced far worse. Some have given in, some have resisted, all have felt guilty and awkward for not being “liberated” enough, not giving him what he wants. Continue reading
Guest post by qvaken
British (?) MP, his wife, and a “porn educator” and contributor to the Telegraph each work to normalise pornography, at least for all men. Not that they’ve exactly got their work cut out for them – “everyone should be watching porn because it’s healthy and normal” is the dominant mantra about the issue in our culture.
Don’t like it? Force yourself to start liking it. Still don’t like it? Tough bickies, because it’s making a few people millions and billions of dollars, and you’re just a bunch of morons who are prepared to help them get it if doing so will make you feel all dominant over someone else and so, so orgasmic. Uh, I mean, do it because you’re smart and modern and liberated! Continue reading
Twenty Five women murdered by suspected or known male violence, this year, our country, it’s only March. We are not making this shit up.
Men are murdering women. And other men. And children. Even puppies. Men. Every day adult males from our masculinised culture.
Prostitution is highly gendered. Men, males, buy and sell women for their sexual pleasure and profit. 90% of prostituted women would exit if they could. Prostituted women suffer the same if not higher rates of PTSD then men in war who’ve faced combat. ‘Framing this prostitution of real women by real men as ‘work’ is only supporting the dignity of men.’
Rape is highly gendered. It is men, males, raping females en masse, and children and other men. Men and their penises and whatever else they use to inflict pain. All the while our “justice” systems excuse males for all forms of MVAW left right and centre, and justice for female victims remains a mythical creature; An Ontario court has just declared a man (male sex-buyer), who, “let” a Prostituted woman bleed to death in his hotel bathroom from an 11 cm wound in her vagina, which was argued must have been deliberately inflicted with an object or from “forcing sex” “beyond her consent”, innocent!
Pointing this out, diagnosing what is happening to women and *who* is doing it, is not degrading males or transphobic. All of the above mentioned though *is* the degradation of women/girls *by* males. Actual male human beings degrading, controlling, raping, impregnating, beating and killing actual female human beings en masse.
How in common sense is naming our abusers, degrading our abusers? It’s nonsensical, yet this claim is now staked in the heart of any female who centres females in her feminism.
This is epic victim blaming. This is malespeak wrapped up in the misuse of the word feminism. Feminism is for females because we are oppressed as a class by males – regardless of whether or not we adhere to rigid imposed gender norms, and no matter how those males ‘identify’.
How about we stop silencing women by shouting ‘man hater’, ‘TERF‘ and ‘transphobe’. It’s tired.
And stop inferring female survivors of male violence, sexual violence and this culture are just hating on a class, males [the class that subordinates us/benefits from our oppression], while we are struggling to maintain some of the few hard won rights and spaces females pioneered for females in this male dominated world, and the language to name our bodies and our realities.
We very clearly have a problem with masculinity as a dominating aspect of our culture, and with the masculinity of individual males. How many times do we have to say this current paradigm of masculinity is hurting everyone. Women, children and men.
This is not about the fact that you as an individual woman are doing okay in life, this is about women as a class.
And yes biology matters.
“…despite the fact that culturally, socially, politically and intellectually we have moved a long way from our biologically-determined origins. Women’s bodies are still the focus of much of the unequal treatment women suffer, whether it’s through the sex trade, rape culture, abortion rights, childcare or even the tax on tampons. Much of the structure put in place to keep women under the control of men, such as the system of law, marriage, unequal pay and unequal opportunities, are still here to a greater or lesser extent, and therefore disadvantage women, whose needs they were not designed to meet. Especially not their different biological needs: the needs that differ the most from male needs.
I have hugely skimmed over the details but you get the picture: it is important to have an idea of how big a part biological reality plays in feminism. Feminist theory cannot help but be concerned with women’s biological, lived reality.” Helen Saxby
More so, where murder doesn’t matter when you are a woman murdered by a man.
In a so called free, first world, first rate country, is this really good enough?
22 women have been murdered by known or suspected male violence in the first 2 and a 1/2 months of 2015 in Australia. There is no more time for outdated views, justifications and pedestrian attitudes.
This is Australia where the very environment and culture in which these murders “happen” to women, is not only excused or ignored, but participated in by the sex class of our murderers. By men who are the dominant sex class, men who are running our governments, running our businesses and our religions. Men who also own our freedom of speech, one of the many perks of being the lawmakers in this monopolisation of our media, wealth and property.
Women in Australia live in a world with this ruling sex class – our murderers, our rapists, our abusers and our exploiters. We live in a world where everyday and influential men participate in, benefit from, and perpetuate a culture that subordinates, objectifies and degrades women on a daily basis, calling it “normal” or saying “it’s just the way things are” (it certainly works out well for men). Continue reading
18 women have been murdered by known or suspected male violence in the first 60 days of 2015 in Australia. 9 of these 18 women are believed to have been murdered by their former or current male partners. 4 of these 9 women had either Domestic Violence Orders in place, or a history of domestic violence that was known to police, one woman was seeking tighter restrictions.
“The biggest threat to Australians is obviously poor health, but for women under 45, the biggest cause of injury or death is violence from a current or former male partner. We see the Federal Government creating splashy campaigns, but overall defunding the area drastically and taking control of it away from the women with built-up expertise, towards religious groups with dubious records. So we don’t need rhetoric about over-hyped terrorist threats, but a government that acts in women’s interests.” – Virginia Brown, Reclaim The Night Perth
What is happening instead, is a repeated narrative in media reporting that undermines the male violence happening to women in Australia, even when this male violence kills them.
* In the recent murder of a 28 year old woman in the ACT, The Canberra Times, with little information known at the time, failed to interview community experts on domestic violence. This would have helped put this murder into context for their readers. Instead they interviewed a resident of the neighbourhood, who told readers this violence was “out of character for the area”, adding “The worst thing in this area is people using the street as a racetrack”.